Feminist who hates modern feminism

I'm a feminist. I am. I believe in my heart that women are equal (if not superior in some aspects, as men are to us). But this hear me roar b.s. is too much for me sometimes. Women beating on their chest screaming let us be equal just seems absurd to me. And being hardened and angry and treating men as they treat us isn't the right way to go about it. I think we have to first acknowledge our equality within ourselves and when we see a wrong against said equality we need to stand up for it. That's it. Not in a harsh, violent way. In the way of a women. With grace and love. With the skills of understanding and empathy that come so natural. We must shine with the power of our love and life. The life that we carry, (not that it was by our choosing mind you) but that we women so deeply understand because of it. We are equal and yet vastly different and still on so many levels exactly the same. That is all it is. And we don't have anything to prove and no reason to prove it. To anyone. Ever. And all this anger and bitterness does is drive people away and take away from our real goal. Doesn't it? How can you lead a happy and deeply peaceful life enshrouded in anger and bitterness, ready at the first sign of injury to leap into a death match?

Differently yet exactly the same. Men have innate qualities which can be used to find their way chivalrously through life, not just towards women but towards all. Men also have an innate sense of understanding and compassion, I've seen it manifest more times than I can say by strangers and loved ones alike. Men also have an ability to see things through regardless of cost, in a tunnel vision, clear every obstacle in the way mentality that women (due probably to the child rearing, multi-tasking mode don't seem to have too much of). This can be a really great thing, that can move mountains (literally) IF the journey they are on is a truly worthy one. Unfortunately men so often feel the need to be loyal, which is a grand virtue when used judiciously, but they seem to honor loyalty even when they know what they are following is wrong. Which is probably why the grand portion of whistle blowers are women. Women tend to see the greater picture and they also (I believe) don't feed into that deep sense of loyalty of an imposed code; maybe partly from not being a man, maybe mostly from feeling excluded from it at every turn. Who knows? Either way. For whatever reason. That's how it seems to be. So. If we all stopped the charades, followed our hearts, used our innate, wonderfully individual talents and virtues towards good (the good we know in our hearts to be true) then what problem could not be solved? Prejudice, misogyny, most, if not all horrors of the world.

The thing I think we have to accept is that society, government, religion and even family/friends have imposed these laws and norms that we as humans, with free will, surrounded by temptation and opportunities at every turn can't seem to obey. And honestly it's so difficult to keep all the balls in the air, all the standards in place, all the different faces in play. It's so much easier to just let it all go, let it all out, follow our hearts. Turn off the voices in our heads and follow what we know is right. That's one thing. One simple thing to do. And I truly in my heart believe that is all we really need to do. That simple thing may just be able to right every wrong. Maybe? Isn't it worth a shot?

Our place

Yes. You look at the world now and how it seems to get worse always and all ways. But. You can look at it two ways. Energy. Life is energy. Everything is energy. Proven fact. Right. Good and evil are energies. They are equal and opposing. Which means that no matter how we look at it or want to change it. There will be good and bad in the world. No matter what we do. When we are gone the world will still regulate itself this way because that is where we are. In other words, on this planet, in this life for whatever reason it is; which believe me I wish I knew, we are stuck between heaven and hell. Figuratively or not that is what is happening. So...our choice is which one do we want? What do we want to follow in our own hearts? Each and every one of us must decide for ourselves. And regardless of what we decide the world will remain in balance, for every death a birth, for every closing an opening. Now here and then one day gone. And so it is. So. Why not make the most of it? Not worry so much about what we can and can't change and make the absolute best of it. Being the best version of ourselves we can muster at any given time. Just the best. Not perfection. Not someone else's ideal. Just our own natural best. That will at least make this life palatable, no matter what war is being waged around us.