Illogical

i was starting to think that child abuse

Especially sexual

Is much more predominant than anyone even imagines

I mean we can already rightfully assume it is under reported

We will never have accurate statistics because

It isn't something people want to admit to

But maybe

I'm too close to the situation to see it clearly

Maybe I'm like a police officer

Who sees an abnormally high amount of violence daily

Who then starts to believe that violence is everywhere always

To some degree sure

It does seem to be human nature

But on the whole maybe it stays fairly consistent.

Maybe?

Maybe it goes in cyclical waves

Like most everything else seems to do

I don't know.

I'm willing to admit

That while I think child sexual abuse is very dominant in our world

In modern society probably most especially

That maybe it isn't necessarily worse than it's ever been

But wouldn't it be better if it simply didn't exist?

But how do you prevent something

That no one really talks about

That usually happens in the privacy of people's own homes

That is perpetuated by people within your inner circle mostly

That seems to be handed down or passed like a baton

When there are no preventative measures

If an abuser abuses because he/she was abused

And the victim goes on to abuse

The cycle is never ending

So where do we break it?

If we are going to leave it to each individual person

To break their own cycle of abuse

God save us all

Because I don't see the resources

The support

Available to have that happen

In real life

May love prevail.....

This generation is screwed

I look at my girls

Ages 3-13

And I feel sorry for them

Sure

They are in an age

Where they can possibly be president now

But at what cost if there isn't genuine acceptance of women as equals?

I look at a lot of today's porn

Which is so violent*

And listen to today's music

Which a lot of times advocates looking at each other as only sexual objects for the sheer purpose of personal gratification

And it saddens me so much

Sure 

There is lip service

There are laws

Some people have progressed to believe it

But as a society

In general

It really isn't there

It's like 

A hotel having a welcome sign

But the doors locked and no one inside

It looks accepting

But it really isn't

Except  

In our case

In the case of society

It actually perpetuates violence against women

As acceptable

Maybe again. Not on the surface

Not in its laws

But definitely in its psyche

Definitely in its customs

But People learn by example

If your religions have no women leaders

Your jobs have no female bosses

Your  mothers take a subservient role

If one learns 

That making fun of women is acceptable

That making decisions for them

About their bodies and roles in society

Is completely acceptable and necessary    
For their own protection

Then what lessons are you learning.
That women aren't equal

And no matter how much you say otherwise

It won't correct the locked door    
But don't get me wrong

I'm not saying men have it much better

The ever so tiny consolation for them

Is that as the perpetuators they don't have to live the actual pain

They just have to live with themselves for causing it

And unfortunately it seems to be a role

A lot of them don't seem to have a huge problem fulfilling

And yet still. I can manage to be grateful to some extent

That things could be worse

But that's still a far cry

From it being right

*some of it seems closer to rape and abuse than sex