Whatever you want it to be

Divorce can look like whatever you want it to be

just like marriage can

and how sex between consenting adults should be

it should be confined only by the limits of your imagination

and the boundaries you have set for yourself (NOT those imposed on you)

screw what society says you should and should not do

they don't live your life

YOU DO

and you only get one go at this race

so you gotta make it uniquely yours

you've got to make it work for you

on your terms

those and whoever you chose to cohabitant with (that choses you back of course)

My divorce currently looks a lot like a marriage in two separate houses

I do his laundry

he comes over for dinner or breakfast a few days a week

we talk/text almost every day

he pays for and delivers our groceries*

I'm not saying it will stay this way forever

relationships change

this will to

but for now this works for all of us

and so it should be with marriage

some marriages work better with their own unique set of parameters

I know couples who live in separate houses

even countries apart (though generally not always by choice)

couples who swing or have completely open relationships

couples who trans or deviate very far from the "norm"

and it works for them

couples who have no sex at all

(it's not for me...but who am I to judge)

my point is

let this life be

what you chose it to be

and if mainstream stifles your joie de vivre

tell them to go fuck themselves

SEIZE THE FUCKING DAY

and carve your own path

devil be damned

set your own course

chart your own path

make this life completely yours

all of it

because the end comes way to fast

and to not have truly lived it

to its absolute fullest

that you were capable of

that you TRULY wanted

will be your absolute greatest regret






*to be fair he works in a grocery store and lives literally across the street as well