Soul mates?

I tell my children that soul mates don't necessarily exist

Rather we each have one person in our lives we loved the absolute most

That was the most precious to us

Someone we feel deeply and inexplicably drawn to love

To cherish

To want to share our lives with

To want to share their journey as well

Was that one person preordained for us?

I don't know the answer to that

I wish I did

But maybe then we wouldn't feel a sense of control

Maybe we would have a grandiose sense of entitlement

Or a deflated sense of despair

Who knows

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I like to believe that as long as we open up to love completely

When it comes

We can have that love time and time again

The real trick in my opinion 

Is finding it and letting it bloom with someone that is actually good for u

And that you are good for

That brings us mutual positivity

That nurtures both parties

To the degree we each need and/or desire

And not to excess as a parent or guardian might

Or not too excessively little or actually detrimental 

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To walk the fine line between what your heart wants

And what is actually good for you

Not good for your superficialities

Your position

Your family

Your p&l spreadsheets

Your image

Your ego

The status quo

Etc etc

Someone who is good for your soul

Who is good to your heart

Who treasures the real you deeply

And acceptingly

Finding that

Fostering that

The work that it takes

Which if done right

Feels like no work at all really

Feels like the most natural thing in the world

Or at least

That's been my experience

This far

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But Again. Who knows

At this point in life

I have very few absolutes

I waver almost petulantly it may seem

From thing to thing

That's what flowing with life

Feels like

Like surfing an ever changing wave

For which I must make ever constant adjustments

To stay centered

And keep keeping on

Staying connected to moment by moment 

Body, mind, spirit 

Connected 

Deeply

In honesty

In complete truth

Not just going through the motions

That freedom

Can 

And should be lived in every day life

To be the happiest

The most full of love and light

That we can be

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Not necessarily easy perhaps

Not ever so particularly hard

If one just decides to do it 

And keep doing it

Time and time again

*if we are lucky