Divorce is hell

Musings on getting divorced

I can say that most peoples reasons for getting divorced

barring mental, physical, emotional and financial abuse

are bad

but then again

most peoples reasons for getting married generally are pretty bad too

so what hope is there really?  lol

So... I can only speak from my own experience

Is marriage difficult?

Hell yes

but divorce reigns upon you a special form of torture

and it's like having kids

It really isn't explainable

You genuinely have to go through it yourself

to completely get it

Even still.

Now that I'm getting over the resentment

The anger. The pain

The heartache and disappointment

Be it ever so slowly

In equal proportion the care I felt for him in the first place

comes back

Maybe more cautiously

With boundaries and caution tape everywhere

But it's there

And it makes me realize

That you go through the expense and trouble of getting married for a reason

What at the time you thought was good enough reason to

Just because time passes and feelings sometimes change

Does it mean it's a bad reason now?

It just means you need to adjust your reasons maybe

As you adjust. As you grow

So must your love adapt

Let them not be like my needed adaptations though.

In cyclical waves of mass fury

or lulls of massive depression

If you can avoid that.

Maybe it's worth considering if you've got a good thing after all?

Don't take into account always what you don't have

Be grateful and satisfied with what you do have

As long as you have the basic necessities*

And love (respect/compassion) given and received

What else is needed in life?


*which will be as individual as a person or a snowflake (I don't care what scientist say).